Take a seat!

Small things

It's in the little things where you don't realize you affect the people who are trying to communicate. In fact, everything you do has affect on your surrounding environment, and even affects a whole lot more, most of the time it's not a big deal, but let's start with being aware with a small example.

Take a seat!

When I'm on the bus, sitting at a two seat and I'm sitting at the windows side, everyone who comes into the bus can take the seat next to me. But, when I'm placing my bag next to me, I create a threshold, a barrier. People do now need to ask me to sit next to me, before they can take their seat. But, if I have my bag beside me and I keep my eyes closed and pretend I'm asleep, I'm creating a small wall around me. People who want to sit next to me are having trouble or difficulties to claim this seat. They first have to wake me and waking someone is not polite. Then they have to ask me to sit next to me.

Back to business.

So, it's in small things you just don't realize what kind of emotional effect you have on people, without being aware of it. Now back to business and ask yourself: what kind of effect do I have on people when they want to ask me a question, or are in need?

You may come with arguments like: when I'm busy, I don't want to be disturbed. I need to finish what I'm doing and then I can answer some questions. You probably don't realize that your reaction can make it harder for someone to ask you a question again. And if you continue to do that, those persons will never ask you any questions anymore. And then you can say: well, it won't come this far with me. I'm nice enough and I'm helping people a lot! Yes, you're probably, hopefully right! And there are some times that you need to be undisturbed. In that case isolate yourself. But at all times: you have to try to take your bag off the seat!